This is Hypnobirthing
By: Kayla Zuidersma
“There is a secret in our culture, and it’s not that birth isn’t painful, but that women are strong.” – unknown
Media does an incredible job at false depictions. We see it all the time in movies………..labour starts with the epic water breaking at the most inconvenient time and place. Then instantly the women begins screaming in pain erupting chaos around her as there is a scramble to get to the hospital before the baby falls out. If you’re lucky there might be a scene where someone wipes out in the amniotic fluid that just burst all over the floor. Fast forward to the hospital where mom is in a hospital gown, laying on her back, legs up, screaming as a doctor aggressively tells her to push. And amazingly enough after a few hard pushes, maybe if things get really dramatic mom sneezes and a baby is born and all is peaceful and right in the world again…….
For some maybe birth was chaotic and felt like something out of a movie. I mean, precipitous births do happen. But the reality for many is that birth looks different for everyone and each person has their own story and journey to meeting their baby.
Birth is a journey and for this mama her journey would be through the use of hypnobirthing.
For this mama, birth looked completely opposite. In fact, her waters didn’t break on their own, and she didn’t birth her baby in a hospital and there was no screaming at all.
Instead, it was a beautiful symphony being orchestrated by the rhythms of her body. Gui decided to do Hypnobirthing with her first baby and this time around she intended on doing the same. Only this time she planned to birth her baby in the safety and comfort of her own home.
“I had great success with hypnobirthing the first time and knew I would use it again.”
When I arrived at Gui’s home I found her peacefully labouring in her bedroom. When she felt each surge come on she would turn inward, focusing on her breathing and relaxation techniques she learned from her hypnobirthing. She also used the TENS machine in the earlier stages of labour as well as hydrotherapy to help relax her body and calm her mind.
“Even as a Doula and all the knowledge I had gained since my first birth I was still nervous and had some anxiety”.
“When birth started this time I felt shaky and nervous. Even though things weren’t intense and hadn’t picked up yet I began to use my breathing techniques. Within an hour I was no longer nervous and felt very relaxed and calm. I wasn’t anxious anymore.”
Gui continued to use her breathing techniques as she progressed. And slowly there was slight shift in body language as she got closer to birthing her baby. Gui’s labour began with her breathing through contractions, still having conversations in between contractions and slowly progressed until she no longer could have conversations at all. Instead Gui relaxed in her bed with a cold cloth on her forehead, focusing on her breathing and relaxing techniques.
“Once labour picked up and I was entering into transition I didn’t want to talk anymore, I didn’t want to look at anything and didn’t want anyone to touch me other than holding the hand of my husband or Doula. I just needed to close my eyes and focus on breathing and what my body was doing.”
“As labour progressed I began to feel discomfort in my back that would wrap around the left side of my hip. It was an unusual discomfort. But I was able to use my visualizations to help me remain calm and focus through it. Each time I took a breath I was aware of what my body was doing. I was able to notice when my body began to tense and was able to relax that area of my body with the use of hypnobirthing.”
Guy’s body was so relaxed that her body was beginning to birth her baby without the need to push or do anything. I can remember myself and the midwife keeping a close eye on Gui as she transitioned because she was so relaxed we almost couldn’t tell what was happening! At this point Gui’s waters had been broken and the only way to know when Gui was contracting and how she was progressing was to watch for a tiny trickle of fluid that would come out as her body contracted.
“I remember feeling so relaxed, right at the very end, just minutes before Harlyn was born, so much that I almost fell asleep. It wasn’t that I was physically tired but that I was in such a released state that it made me sleepy.”
“For the pushing stage I used the term ‘breathing baby down’. I allowed my body to push my baby out, breathing through each surge. I could feel myself pushing a little bit near the end but would continue to focus on my breathing and visualizations. I had even planned to use a mirror to see her crown but when the time came I was so focused that I couldn’t look. I needed to stay in my zone.”
It wasn’t long after that sweet little baby Harlyn was born into the arms of her mama! And to her surprise……..”it’s a GIRL! Hunny we have a girl!! Can you believe it!!???”
Gui’s birth was absolutely beautiful. The stillness, the silence, the anticipation, the gentle birthing. Everything about her birth was gentle and calm. Together, Gui and Ryan welcomed Harlyn in the very comfort of their own home on a beautiful spring afternoon.
“I really believe that hypnobirthing played a huge part in the outcome of my birth. Although I used other forms of pain management, constantly having my mind in a calm state was my biggest asset.”
Congratulations Gui and Ryan!
This is hypnobirthing…..
Hey there, my name is Kayla. I am your Niagara Region Doula & Birth Photographer. I live on the beautiful escarpment in Beamsville on our family owned and run farm.
I am a mama of two and currently in the process to adopt our third! I know crazy! Life feels crazy sometimes but that’s all part of the fun right?
I absolutely love birth and babies!! I love the journey into parenthood and the transition along the way. I love how our hearts seem to quadruple in size the second we lay eyes on our baby and how we get to see the world in a whole new perspective as our kids grow and change.
As your Doula & Birth Photographer my goal is to help you have the best birth experience you possibly can. My goal is to eliminate any fears or worries going into birth and help you feel confident and excited to birth your baby.
Let’s chat about how we can make your birth experience the best experience it can possibly be!